Where is this relationship going?
After crashing and burning several times, you realize that much of a relationship’s potential is set by the predetermined objective of each partner. As they enter the relationship they inevitably bring a vision for how it should end. And remember every relationship terminates; it either blossoms into a marriage or ends in severance. Auto salesmen know how to spot a ready buyer. They exit their car differently and have a cadence as they approach the showroom. Even though they try to conceal their intent, they linger a certain way over the car and let key clues slip.
One of the keys to women pursuing marriage is quickly identifying readiness in a man. He needs to be marriage ready, or you’re taking a major risk with your time and heart. What are the indicators that a man is earnestly on the hunt for his wife? Look for these indicators:
1. Fast Paced
You’ll recognize a man-on-a-mission right away. He wants your phone number now, or he’ll ask you out and and set the date instantly. His timetable is measured in months not years. The inner man has been unleashed and nothing will sidetrack him from a primal drive to find his wife and build his family. Picture the difference between a person strolling leisurely through the mall and a hurried shopper heading straight toward a specific store. Proverbs 18:22 implies this masculine urgency!
Marriage ready men make a point to carve room in their lives and schedules for pursuing their wife. They figure out how to complete their work in less time, reduce entanglements and diversions, and set their minds on their desire to get married. They don’t make excuses about not being able to call, text, message, connect. They find the means to make a way and just plain get-it-done.
3. Grown Up
He loves his friends and understand one of their main roles at this stage in life is to help him get married. His friends are not a council with authority over his life, but encouragers who support him and adapt to his pursuit of marriage. He has his hobbies properly bounded, enjoyed but not overdone. Men who are grown up bear the hallmarks of a man. They actually may reside at home or in a creative living arrangement, but for a season and a strategic reason.
4. Uses The “M” and “C” Words
Marriage and children are words of anticipation for men who have been readied for their wife search. They are comfortable discussing and engaging in such topics in appropriate ways, such as referencing laboring hard in order to fund the future. Encounters with weddings and childcare situations become opportunities for them to shine and speak about their dreams of family. My wife often speaks out future family references to serious dating couples, such as “you guys would conceive beautiful children.” The reaction of the man says everything about his marriage readiness. Sadly, the men that squirm and speak inappropriately are on the severance track.
5. Packed And Ready
Is there an SUV commercial without a tailgate filled to the brim with camping supplies? When we’re ready to travel we get our gear in place. So it is with men who are marriage ready. They are packed and ready; they have given thought to their finances and are aggressively pounding debt and accumulating savings. With resourceful eyes, they hunt for new deals, opportunities and ways to strengthen their position. They have dealt with the majority of their wounds and insecurities and stand upon the foundation of peace with God.
6. Consider The Heart
When men get serious about marriage they begin to elevate the importance of a women’s inner life in their attraction equation. The days of zoning only on “hot” exteriors ends and a new era of broad range character assessment begins. You can tell a man is ready for marriage by who he has recently pursued and the lines of questions that he uses. Marriage minded men inquire after the thoughts and attitudes of the heart.
Learning to spot marriage ready men is an acquired skill, developed over time and aided by understanding. The next time a potential suitor waltzes toward you, use these indicators to reach an informed determination of his marriage intention level. As a rule, if a man isn’t set on pursuing marriage then there isNO WISDOM in engaging his interest.
Ask him, “What is the purpose behind your interest?”
So get out there and spot those men with marriage on their mind, get savvy, get smart and decide to move toward marriage.
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