Waiting may be one of the least popular words in all of the English dictionary. We abhor even the slightest delays as evidenced by our deep disdain for traffic jams and holding rooms outside medical offices. In fact, the only instance where waiting registers positively is when it buffers us from some dreadful errand. Otherwise waiting is woeful!
Are you tired of waiting?
Much to many women’s dismay, marital delays far past anticipated launches have become a frustrating norm. Have you ever felt like you’re sequestered inside a stale waiting room, frozen and forgotten, sentenced to read the same uninteresting magazine repeatedly while indefinitely awaiting your name to be called?
If you’re reading this, you understand what it is like to wait for the man you will one day call beloved. The guttural yearns late at night, the anticipatory hopes rising and falling with each new encounter.
No one told you that waiting was such a physically and emotionally exhausting exercise.
Thankfully waiting can be constructive. Elongating the process of obtaining is one of the primary ways that God forges humility and instills thorough appreciation in us for a milestone He empowers us to reach. Waiting has the wonderful result of increased godliness and can bring greater future returns. At Marriage Pursuit we encourage singles to strive forward in full wisdom while acknowledging the value of unintended seasons of expectancy.
The primary question before you today is how are you to wait as a women designed by God with an intense desire for marriage?
So for you we have a five-part framework for wise waiting, modeled ironically on the physical lines we endure at our understaffed governmental facilities. By some miraculous stroke of grace we can find meaning, even instructive illustration from within those cinder block walls. Check out these lessons from the line.
When dealing with a governmental agency, one tactic stands supreme – arrive early. It’s all about positioning, getting ahead of the crowd surge that descends on the doorways each day. Wise women can glean a principle here. Your positioning choices – where you locate yourself educationally, professionally, residentially, and socially are key determinants in your marital outlook. Think carefully about where you establish yourself and station yourself for maximum advantage within those environments. Relationships are a lot like real estate; it’s location, location, location. Additionally, be a wide-margin girl who in wisdom seeks out ways to arrive early in order to set up opportunities for additional introductions and extra interactions. Show up early to help set-up or greet. Help take down flyers after the event and join the crew at the post-game meal.
Wait In The Right Line
You must know where great eligible men cruise, and craft the space to connect. There is nothing worse than toiling for an agonizing half-hour before a deflating discovery. You’ve been in the wrong line! Ladies do not let this happen to you. Get to right places, flush with the type of men that you would desire to be your partner through the years. Waiting in the right line means being able to look at the probable futures of the men in the sub-group and adjust accordingly. Are you in a line filled with shiftless men in development, or are you on in a place to continually interact with stellar soon-to-be family heads? There are many lines to wait in. Make sure you are in the right one!
My frustration was piercing; all the monotonous time in line had been squandered due to a single missing form. In that administrative moment of truth I stood unprepared and left empty handed. Dear sister, as you await your noble knight, be about the business of preparing yourself. Initiate action to develop yourself as a wife candidate. Be the woman who uses her fifteen-minutes in the waiting room most purposefully. Be a woman busy becoming a knock-out in every way. Do the obvious things that are in your power now. Tie up loose ends, and get your dancing shoes on. It won’t be much longer until your song is played.
Wait With A Smile
Attitude really is everything. Any situation can completely be turned inside out with a splash of enthusiasm. Picture waiting in a bland line, emotionless expressions all around, and one face in the crowd stands out. Suddenly someone with a pleasant smile makes eye contact with you. Frankly it seems out of place, almost surreal, and it warms you up instantly. Wise woman, let this be you. In a courting system that often resembles a highly inefficient bureaucracy, stand out with a smile. Don’t just grin with half-power. Beam out some light! You’ll be amazed who is drawn in.
Wait With Friends
A lesser known secret element to pursuing marriage is the importance of the peer aspect. Getting married is always a team sport, no matter the conditions or contestants there are always others involved exerting influence on the outcome. You need friends of the same-sex to bolster your pursuit. During seasons of waiting load up on positive girl friends that have your best interests in mind.
Stay In Line
Remain in line. Do not give up! I recall times bailing on lines, becoming too frustrated to endure a few more minutes and complete the task. The times I left the line were mistakes which set me back. Keep your head up and stay in the game. No hiding out or sabbaticals. You can do this in the strength and endurance of the Lord!
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