One of our guiding principles is that men and women can both take positive, prudent action towards getting married. THERE ARE THINGS YOU CAN DO TO MOVE FORWARD!
In that spirit here are four New Year’s boosters to aid you in your quest.
A New Outlook
We love the opportunity that the New Year brings to envision and pursue a future reset from our past. At the dawn of this New Year you can claim a new outlook. The outlook that God has for you is one of hope and anticipation (Jer. 29:11) so set that as your forecast for your future. The course ahead can be dramatically different than the course behind. In this New Year all it takes is one. You don’t need to charm the masses or entice every man. You just need to establish one solid connection. Your new outlook can be positive because the fact is that years of disappointment can be redeemed in an instant. God can bring your mate into your life at any point – a Tuesday at the office or a Friday night social event. Other advantageous avenues could be a post-church lunch or a coffee date following an online connection. The creativity the Lord uses to craft your unique story will be glorious.
As you look ahead with eager excitement over the potential of the New Year, consider uncharted territory. Consider places and groups and social spheres that you haven’t yet explored. A savvy marriage seeker knows how to maintain a home base, a social anchor with a stabilizing role, and still continue to explore new ground. It’s a big world the Lord has made and our modern world is flush with unique arenas and the tools to find them. A critical question for you is, “am I locating myself in places, in person and online, where potential mates for me congregate?” It’s exciting to consider the myriad of networks arrayed before you – church groups, alumni groups, industry and charitable groups. Connect with informal groups of people who grew up in certain places or who went to the same camp growing up. Mingle with fellow hobbyists and plant stakes online. Women, make yourself findable. Men, go find her in the right places.
New Standard Ops
We all employ subconscious rules to govern our interactions. This year, I challenge you to review your current personal policy and procedure and write out new guiding principles for your marriage pursuit. Setting out these directives will have a transformative impact for you.
“I will be bold.”
“I will expect to be treated with respect.”
“I will not remain in a relationship that I’m not a priority.”
“I will take tangible action toward marriage.”
“I will focus on legitimate marriage prospects and avoid detours.”
Set a new paradigm for healthy maneuvers ahead of time. Write it out and watch it play out!
Take who God has designed you to be all the way. Maximize yourself under God’s leading. Get busy making waves working on yourself. Introspectively determine two or three enhancements that you can make for your marketability. What has the Spirit been nagging you about?
Finish your coursework
Pay down debt
Get a new style
My cylinders always fire when I see a friend embarking on a game-changing personal improvement. Each and every step sparks electrical pulse pushing them to greater preparation.
As January sets upon you, take heart. Fresh encounters and opportunities await. You can build marriage-bound momentum each day this year. Check out this handout to chart your course.