The Ask

Everything hinges on the ask.

In a time when compatible men and women routinely slip past each other without so much as a hint of an ask, stand out by employing this powerful technique.   There is nothing new about the ask.  The ancients understood it, as did the romantics of the previous centuries.   But many men in our world appear to be unaware of the force a well delivered invitation can wield.   You can take a big swing that can spark dramatic impact, even the launch of an awesome connection with a woman who might become your wife.  

Of course you might experience a form of those overly dreaded words of denial, but either way, every single ask action strengthens and moves you forward in pursuit of your wife.

So you’re saying there is a chance! – Jim Carrey

Overcoming 

Sales training teaches men and women to overcome their fear of rejection   But it is actual sales experience that obliterates hindrance from the inner core of the salesperson, and once a man or woman is free from this phobia they are primed to dominate the territory.   If you’ve known anyone who worked for the Southwestern Co. selling educational resources face to face, they’ll tell you about the day they overcame apprehension.  Once they squelched their own internal reticence to approach someone for a sale, they were unstoppable!

What could happen if you operated with a steely confidence in the dating arena?

Dominating fear isn’t meant for recklessness, to the detriment of women and the pilfering of things not yours.  Harnessing the Power of The Ask enables you to stay on point and with a single volley, lay the ground work for your future family.

By learning to ask you can confidently engage a woman who has drawn your attention!

What’s The Big Deal?

The overall tone of this website is marriage driven and heavy on purposeful action. Therefore intentional steps toward the desire of your heart is our talking point!   On a light hearted note, I have to ask, “Why do many adults make such a big deal about asking someone out?”

It Felt Like Junior High.

Seriously, the guy-girl climate in the young singles group that I entered post-college graduation was relationally regressive.   Here we were working jobs with fancy titles, degrees hanging on our walls,  but asking a female out for a meal required an Act of Congress.  

For some, disappointment over arriving at an unwanted junction may have contributed to the juvenile dynamics.   When you find yourself in an environment permeated with anxiety & complacency, be a confident asker and you’ll plow your through the ice!

Asking someone for one set appointment to explore marriage potential, while a meaningful expenditure, should not be over analyzed or reported.  Any community of single adult men and women should have a thriving climate of asking.   It’s normal people!!! Men should be free to ask and women eager & empowered to respond!

You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take – Wayne Gretzky

No Regrets

Many men would tell you personally they have no regrets over the ladies that they did ask out. It is the ones that they didn’t ask out that leave them wondering.   What might have happened? You now have a chance to be bold in pursuit of your wife.  Follow God’s lead and be a man! Who will you ask out today?

The righteous are as bold as a lion – Proverbs 28:1

When your have the compulsion to ask – DO IT! Stop letting intimidation by extraneous bystanders dictate your action.

Super Bowl 2013 featured an amazing inspirational commercial accurately entitled, “Bravery.”

Watch it here for jolt of zeal!

What You’re Asking

You’re asking for a sliver of time, a window of a specific woman’s day to peal back the layers behind her public persona.  You’re asking for the courtesy of granting you initial consideration as a potential marriage partner.   Nothing more.   Taking her on a date does not obligate her to choose you or reciprocate in any way.  You’re  just requesting an opportunity to get into the game, to take a shot, a few moments to present your case.   More specifically, here is what you are asking for:

• Time together that is primarily devoid of interaction with others.    Not some creepy alone time, just an outing where uninterrupted verbal interaction is the prime fare.

• Consideration of your inner person, beyond your appearance, reputation and social facade.

• Respectfully and confidentiality get to know you and progressively reveal herself.

Putting The Power To Work

The to secret to willpower is want power. – John Maxwell

When you increase your rate of asking, you’ll get dinged a few times and track one of the most wondrous adventures of your life.   In the singles community one of the most common refrains was, “why don’t men ask us out?”  Women really are disheartened that on a wide-scale men are behind in performing their basic role in the coming together process.

Oh that men would just ask!

Friend and blogger Monica Leija details this frustration here.  Men, you can be the change starting now!   Picture what might begin to unfold even today if you  ASKED her out.   Just as the God fearing man is to ask of the Lord, so the marriage seeking man should ask after a maiden.   Unfortunately in our day, many men attempt to begin a relationship via other avenues besides a traditional one-on-one date.   Brothers this should not be!

Ask and will receive, seek and you will find, knock and the door will be opened to you – Matthew 7:7

A Day For Asking

Our country is in such dire need of men asking women out that we propose to designate an annual day for this sole purpose in January.  On this one momentous day we would challenge every single man to ask a woman out for a date – the co-worker you’ve been flirting with, or the sweet single mother down the street.

This would be a MASSIVE momentum builder for Valentine’s Day.    Many are uneasy about initiating anything brand new right around Valentine’s Day so this timing would provide a month of lead-up time.   Let us know your thoughts.  More to come on this from Marriage Pursuit.

Ask her out in January, celebrate in February!  When in doubt, Just ASK!

Onward,